We did it! We moved our family of 6 to the magical land of Costa Rica and the next few blogs will provide insight as to how we made this decision and the physical/emotional journey of actually manifesting our desires in to action.
The seed was planted roughly 5 years ago when Adam and I first visited Costa Rica. There was a vibrancy, an energy that felt like home to me. Time and time again, I questioned how we could make a move to Costa Rica happen but never made a strong effort to answer that question. While the yearning to live in this tropical wonderland never really subsided, I allowed life to dictate a path for me. I chose to be a spectator to my life rather than an active participant.
Fast forward 5 or so years and I found myself living in Arlington, Texas, and I was very aware of the nagging feeling that this was not the place for me (or my family). I had this belief that I could (and should) be happy anywhere. I had plenty of “rational” conversations with myself about how I should be content. I owned a beautiful home on a small pond in a upscale neighborhood. I had many friends. The kids had friends. I had two thriving businesses. Adam had a well-paying full time gig. My kids were attending top-rated schools. I had a rich social life with zumba, bootcamp, yoga, pokeno, parties, etc. I had easy access to every type of food, entertainment, store I could imagine. I was living “better” than probably more than 90% of the world’s population and, yet, no matter how much I rationalized how I should be feeling, I wasn’t feeling it. Something was amiss and and I could no longer continue to ignore that pull. I could continue to allow life to happen to me or I could listen to the call, drop fear, and start creating the life that was calling me forth. Of course, my life consists of more than just MY wants and desires so I needed to be responsible in how I approached this questioning. We are a family of six and it mattered that all members felt they had a voice in where the journey would lead us and what constituted a life of fullness for each of us individually and us as a group.
Searching for this answer came so very easily when we approached it one tiny step at a time. The first step was acknowledging the pull, the whispers of my heart. Without judgment. Without any shoulds or should-nots. The second step was to present my desires of change to my life partner and four boys. And once they were on board with the idea of imagining/creating a different life path (because it turns out all of us were feeling misplaced/misaligned in our Texas life) we took the very next step. We needed to know WHY we wanted to make the change. We didn’t need to know what those changes would look like or how they would come to fruit or even if they would come to fruit but we needed to be very clear about WHAT needed to change.
So we sat down and made a values list. What did we as a family value?
Our list looked like this….
And just like that we were all in agreement of what we valued, what values were currently out of alignment, and what we wanted to set out to manifest.
We have referred to this ‘values list’ a million times over during the exploratory and transitional period of the last 8-9 months. Every time someone has asked us, “Why are you moving to Costa Rica?” We know why! Every time someone has mentioned that we may be nucking futs. And, every time we have questioned our own sanity and decision making capabilities. We just pull up this list and breathe in the absolute knowing, “ahhhhhh, yes, this is exactly why we are doing what we are doing.”
In response to all those who have questioned if we are nucking futs? Absolutely nucking futs! But at least we are nucking futs with values!