Ding! Ding! Ding!
This cartoon nails it on the head.
When I was hiding my disbelief and playing the game of Christian people came to me for parenting/marital/financial/life guidance. The moment I declared my agnostic turned atheist beliefs I was told by many of those same people that sought out my advice that my children are lost, I am lost, my family is damned to hell. I’m shameful. I was never really a Christian. I was even disowned.
I think it’s a shame that the moment my beliefs are not aligned with yours (well they hadn’t been for awhile…the fact is it simply went unnoticed that a long time before I announced my disbelief I had stopped saying I would pray for you or quoting scripture and for years I had stopped saying Merry Christmas and sent holiday cards instead) your vision became skewed. I am still caring, loving, courteous, understanding, energetic, generous, hardworking, fun, humble, funny, motivated, friendly, a great wife, smart, talented, trustworthy, moral and I would add honest, genuine, a great mom, a great mentor, committed, educated, open-minded, accepting, non-judgemental, a great friend, adventurous and in love with life!